Is Your ‘But’ Bigger Than You Think

A while back now I watched an Australian film called; The Dressmaker starring Kate Winslet. There was a particular scene that sparked an interesting thought about how a person’s own ability to find an alternative to problems that they face, by using the word ‘but’.

In this scene, Winslet’s character Myrtle is upset with the townspeople’s treatment towards her and in a rage wanted to leave the town along with her reluctant mother. Myrtle debates with her mother Molly (played by Judy Davis) all the reasons they should leave the town, giving in to those around her. However with every reason, Molly rebuffs her with each statement beginning with ‘but…’

It’s a simple contrasting word that is often used in a negative context. I want to be an artist BUT I can’t draw. I want to get fit BUT I don’t have time to exercise. It’s an easy way to excuse yourself from facing a difficult problem and nowadays we do it almost subconsciously. What I found during this scene was the strength of this seemingly insignificant word being used in a positive way, to reason and reinforce…

So how about when you’re feeling like giving up or giving in to a problem that you face, turn this word into your own power tool to combat difficult situations and times of uncertainty, instead of letting them win.

For example, I’ve recently started a YouTube channel (The Gracious Life) and I’m sure most people can understand putting yourself out there in such a public light is no easy feat. I had wanted to create this channel for a while, however I kept using negative ‘BUTS’ to question my own insecurities. From the way I look and sound on camera to the negative feedback and reactions I might receive, there were just so many ‘buts’. What I realised overtime and with the support of friends, is that yes, I have these insecurities BUT if I give into them, I would never move forward and achieve my goals, which holds a greater importance than my insecurities. And now that I have created my channel, this has proven to be true.

So when you’re thinking about what you want to do in life, whether it’s on a day-to-day basis or long-term goals you want to achieve, and you start having those thoughts that are telling you to run in the opposite direction, think about your BUT. Ask yourself is your BUT bigger than those thoughts that are causing confusion. Start with ‘but…’ and finish with a positive statement. You might just realise that the outcome holds a greater importance to the negative thoughts that are holding you back.

Originally published on Glam Adelaide

How Breathing the Right Way can Change Your Life

Breathing. It is something that most of us do without really thinking about it. It keeps us alive (we know, stating the obvious) but have you ever thought about how breathing can assist us in certain situations?

In today’s fast paced and ever changing society it is no wonder that we can often find ourselves anxious, stressed and/or worried. We have all seen that scene in a movie where someone is stressing out and to try and calm down, they breathe into a paper bag. While this may help some people (there is actually method behind the seemingly mad action), there are other simple breathing techniques that can be used to create calmness within.

Those who practice yoga or other forms of meditation will recognise the use of breathing practices as a way to create internal calmness and relaxation. Bringing these techniques into your every day life or maybe just when you are feeling that anxiety/stress/worry come on, could make a huge difference to the way that you are feeling and how you cope with certain situations.

Have you ever noticed that when you’re anxious or stressed that we tend to take short shallow breaths from the upper chest? Instead try to concentrate your breathing all the way down into your abdomen. Deep and slow belly breathing is known for creating a sense of calm. Your body actually reacts to this slow type of breathing and responds more rationally. Gosh our body is clever!

Breathing is something we have the power to control and change. So if you find yourself becoming anxious, stress or worried, try using this ‘super’ power of yours and change the way you breathe. You might just find the ability to calm yourself down and tackle any situation head on.

I would love to hear how breathing has helped you in a stressful situation, so let me know at mayanthi@thegraciouslife.com.au

Originally published on Glam Adelaide

Throw That ‘Too Hard Basket’ Out and Start Achieving Your Goals

So that famous too hard basket, have you heard the saying? Well i reckon I hadn’t heard of it till I joined the workforce. And it’s made me think, why have we made it so easy to just throw something in the too hard basket, why should this be allowed, because really throwing something in the too hard basket actually means giving up or not doing something about something that needs doing.
I know for me I don’t really think about the too hard basket very often and I think there are 3 reasons for this:
1. I’m usually passionate about the things I think about doing so I’ll do whatever I can to not make it so hard to do.
2. I work on it slowly, do abit here and abit there so it doesn’t feel like I’m taking on a massive task all at once.
3. I don’t think of it as too hard. Our brains have so much power that the more we think something the more real it feels and the more we believe it.
So my lessons here are firstly if you really are passionate about doing something then take it on as a challenge, it’s not going to be easy but it doesn’t mean the idea needs to go in the too hard basket, it just needs a little TLC. Secondly, break your idea down into doable steps (Rome wasn’t built in a day..hey hey hey). And thirdly, I think this point is so important; don’t think of something as too hard, if you really want to do something, and it’s physically possible, then just put a little bit of time and work into it. Once you start working on it, it will become easier and easier!

At First Light: Adelaide’s First Health Morning Dance Party

What does your morning routine look like? Do you ever think about how you could change it up? And then you think…nah…I like to sleep in, get up at the last possible moment, run out of the house with a piece of toast hanging out of your mouth and make it to work just in time or a minute late. But then you seriously think about it, and you do think maybe something does need to change, the stress of running out of the house in the morning and making it to work just in time is not the most ideal scenario.

Now let me share with you a different scenario, one that includes morning yoga and dancing! I know your first thought is probably…”Ain’t nobody got time for that!”. But again you have a serious think and you realise how good that actually sounds…well why not try it while the opportunity is available to you, this is what At First Light is offering you…how cool is that!

Yes you read correctly, morning yoga and dance party…all between 7 and 9am. At First Light is Adelaide’s first health morning dance party. Founder; Leah Kertesz, started the movement as an opportunity to provide Adelaidians with an atmosphere of carefree fun without the need to fuel the body with any ‘substances’. Instead, along with the yoga and dancing, guests are provided with coffee and sweet/healthy treats.

I attended the most recent event, which was held on Rundle Mall. As I entered the marquee I noticed the smiles on everyones faces and everyone just looked like they were loving life…and remember this was around 7.30 in the morning…..who would have thought you could be having so much fun at this time of day! Leah and the At First Light team are hosting their next morning dance party on the 8th of October, I highly recommend checking it out!

At First Light

 

Celebrating Girl About Town’s New Look

I recently attend a stylish soirée to celebrate Girl About Town PR’s new look, and it made me think….

What did it make me think about you ask? Well, it made me think about changes that we go through in life, new beginnings and how we deal with these. For a lot of us change is something we just don’t embrace, when we transition from different stages in life we tend to focus on what we are loosing rather than possible gains. So what if, instead of focusing on the not so great aspects of change, why not look at the part that might actually be for the better. I know it sounds a little cliché, but seriously why not just think about it, or even go one step further and write a list, list the gains and list the ‘not so gains’….this just may give you a reminder that it’s not all bad!

Now, back to the event, so Girl About Town (GAT) are definitely embracing change and looking at it in such a way that is showing us that everything in life goes through changes, whether we are talking about trends, businesses, people, families etc, we all go through different stages and different changes, how you work with it, and how you let it effect you is what matters, so lets all take a leaf out of the GAT book and celebrate it!

Here are some photos from their beautiful celebration held at the Mini Car Showroom

(Photo credit: Teo Magazine)

 (Godi La Vita)

Behind The Scenes: The Gracious Life Makeover

The Gracious Life has had a makeover! Who doesn’t love a good makeover right!

I started The Gracious Life as a lifestyle consulting and coaching service, as well as a space to share my life with you all through a blog. I felt as though the site needed a makeover because I wanted to highlight the lifestyle coaching service being offered as it is my passion in life to help inspire and motivate people to achieve their goals, and create their own ‘Gracious Life’.

For the makeover, I decided to have photo’s taken of myself and my space. I created a space that inspires and motivates me to do what I do. For the shoot I wore a beautiful white shirt with black detailing, it was sent to me from UK company; Hawes and Curtis. It is an impeccably made shirt. I am wearing a UK size 10 slim fit. Not only does it fit perfectly but it also fits with my new branding perfectly, being all white with black detailing.

Below are some ‘behind the scenes’ photos of the shoot. All photos were taken by my friend and fellow blogger Susan from Fashion Adventurer.

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Hawes and Curtis

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